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I got reported for using the woman's faculty bathroom at my school even though my counselor told me I could. I thought it was unisex, there isn't even any signage on the door. I thought I passed pretty well but I guess not. I'm so embarrassed 😭
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confirmation bias? if these people knew you pre transition/ know about you being trans it might affect how they view you. just a guess. (but you do look good gal).
My guess is being reported for using the faculty bathroom while looking like a student, not for anything else
Sounds like jealous high school bullshit. "she turned out pretty so fuck her".
they must have known you were trans and reported you purposefully to piss you off. i see literally 0 reasons why you don't pass. literally none.
Agreed. Anyone seeing OP wouldn't blink about them using a women's restroom.
I use women's restrooms exclusively out and about and in the workplace since I started hormones.
I certainly did not pass well at all and never dealt with dorks being that way.
Get your chip up, OP. You have a right to exist like anyone else.
you 100% pass girly. you look almost identical to one of my AFAB friends so you have nothing to worry about, they’re just being twonks <3
I use the mens room and I get harassed, I ask if I can use a different one and get fussed at by some 70 year old.
like mfr there's no signage on the door and I've literally been the only one to use it. I can't win lol
That's bullshit. And bullying. Don't be embarrassed about anything.
Love the hair ✨️
Girl, you pass so well that if this wasn't the transgender sub I'd assume you're cis. I see exactly 0 masc in this picture. I see a very pretty young woman. I'd assume the people who reported you knew you're trans. It's messed up but they likely just reported you to mess with you. Don't let it get you down, people like that unfortunately exist. I've seen it a billion times, they bully and pick on people they perceive as weak and think are easy targets. They're sad people that probably have a lot of negative emotions they don't know how to handle constructively. They are immature and their opinions shouldn't concern you. That being sad, your emotions about this are totally valid! It's okay to feel sad, give that sadness room to breathe and it will pass eventually. Take care of yourself, do things that comfort you. You'll be fine!
Reported is different from disciplinary action. If you have tangible proof of your counselor saying it's okay (like an email) I'd use that and file your own report for harassment. That's not okay. You pass so well you wouldn't be safe in the men's room and you can't be expected to hold it all day (don't turn into me who has an overactive bladder.) Your feelings are valid.